An open letter to my son - Part 5

As I previously mentioned, I want you to be prosperous.  I want you to be happy.  I also want you to be comfortable . . . but not all the time.  Recognize that most of the important stuff in your life will happen when you are beyond your comfort zone.  

I challenge you to take frequent and intentional trips outside of your comfort zone.  It’s similar to going to the gym.  Unless you are sweating and feeling a little bit of a “burn”, it’s probably not worth your while.  

So, order something on that restaurant menu that you have never had before.  Better yet, order something you’ve never heard of.  Hang out with the “weirdos” and “freaks”.  Seek to understand people with religious and political views opposite of those you currently hold.  Travel to foreign lands and make yourself the minority.  

One of my favorite quotes is by Joseph Campbell.  He said, “"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”  Fear is a biological response that really isn’t appropriate for this day and age.  Those fears were created to keep your ancestor of 400 generations ago from being devoured by a saber-toothed tiger.  

In this century, all your needs are met.  Almost all your fears are irrational and unwarranted.  

Dedicate a morning and read “The Flinch.”  In this book Julien Smith will eloquently explain to you why facing your fears and anxieties head on is so important.  You’ll understand why you won’t make a difference if you aren’t willing to sacrifice your comfort.